My trust issues.
Do you have trust issues?
My story
Good to see you again. First of all how you doing today? Christmas is coming up so I hope you’re feeling as good as you can be. I’m here to talk about my trust issues as promised and how I dealt with them. You can always message me too.
I hope this can make a slight positive impact for your issues in life. Here we go.
Back in the day, I found myself navigating the unpredictable streets of my area. I had made a few friends along the way. Moving around a lot I was bound to meet a lot people and bump into the wrong crowd sometimes, especially with my personality.
People I met at local hangouts or through that person or this person. Some I’m still friends with, and some not but thats life. You move on. People move on.
While they seemed friendly and genuine, I couldn’t shake the feeling that they might take advantage of me. I often worried that they might rob me or take something without asking, I may even get the feeling they’re looking at me funny to the point I’m being aggressive and confronting them and looking back now, it was silly. This constant anxiety stemmed from deeper trust issues that had been brewing within me for years.
Growing up, I struggled with self-acceptance. I often felt like an outsider, Never quite fitting in with my peers. This discomfort in my own skin made it hard for me to trust others, even with what they say.
I had seen friendships crumble due to betrayal, and those experiences left me wary. I would often replay past incidents in my mind, convinced that my new friends would eventually let me down, just like others had before.
Recognising that my trust issues were rooted in my own insecurities, I decided it was time for a change. I began by reflecting on my past experiences and acknowledging the impact they had on my present.
I realized that to build trust with others, I first needed to cultivate trust within myself. This meant working on my self-esteem and learning to communicate openly about my concerns.
I began my journey of resolving my trust issues by taking small, intentional steps. First, I focused on self-reflection. I set aside time each week to journal about my feelings and experiences.
This practice helped me identify specific moments from my past that had contributed to my distrust. By acknowledging these feelings, I started to understand that they didn’t have to dictate my present relationships.
Next, I sought to improve my self-esteem. I engaged in activities that made me feel good about myself, whether it was pursuing a hobby, exercising, or spending time in nature. I surrounded myself with positive influences, including friends who uplifted me and encouraged my growth. This shift in my environment helped me feel more secure in who I was, which in turn made it easier to trust others.
To address my concerns about friends on the streets, I made a conscious effort to get to know them better. As I learned more about their backgrounds and values, I began to see them as individuals rather than potential enemies. This gradual process of building respect helped me feel more comfortable and less suspicious.
At work, I made a conscious effort to collaborate more with my colleagues. I started sharing my ideas and seeking feedback, which fostered a sense of teamwork. I realized that trust in a professional environment is built through mutual respect and support. By allowing myself to trust others, I created a more positive and productive atmosphere, which ultimately benefited everyone involved.
As I continued to work on my self-esteem and trust issues, I found that my relationships began to flourish. I became more open to forming deeper connections, and I noticed a shift in how others responded to me. My newfound confidence allowed me to approach friendships and partnerships with a sense of curiosity rather than suspicion.
As I embraced this journey of self-discovery and healing, I also sought out resources that could support my growth. I read books on emotional intelligence and communication skills. These resources provided me with valuable insights and tools that I could apply in my daily life.
Over time, I began to notice significant changes in my relationships. My friendships became more genuine and fulfilling, as I learned to appreciate the people around me for who they truly were. I found myself laughing more, sharing experiences, and creating memories without the weight of distrust holding me back.
At work, my willingness to collaborate and share ideas led to new opportunities and professional growth. I became more engaged with my colleagues, and we developed a supportive network that fostered creativity and innovation. The trust I built in the workplace not only enhanced my job satisfaction but also contributed to a positive team dynamic.
Ultimately, overcoming my trust issues was a gradual process that required patience and self-compassion. I learned that it was okay to take small steps and that healing wasn’t linear. There were moments of doubt and setbacks, but each experience taught me something valuable about myself and my relationships.
'“It takes more energy to distrust someone than it is to trust them”
See you next week on the topic about guts. We all know we need guts. See you then.
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